Physical & Chronic Pain vs. Emotional Pain: Is one better than the other???
Okay so as a person having been through both of them pretty severely, I’m not really sure what the correct answer to this question is. After having been through both I would have to say NO THERE ISN’T ONE that is GREATER OR BETTER than the OTHER! If there are those of you who agree that emotional is harder, it only tells me you have never experienced chronic excruciating physical pain but then again…..Did your child parent, sibling or spouse commit suicide? Have any of them unsuccessfully tried to commit suicide on more than one occasion? Did you lose a child to miscarriage more than once when your whole life had become based around having a child? Was your brother murdered? Was a good friend of yours killed in an auto accident? Have you lost loved ones to the big “C” word? Not fair and I can’t explain how much it hurts or feels. What I do know is this….I have been through both and guess what……physical pain hurts enough to where I HAVE thought about committing suicide myself many times. Let me clarify and say that I would never act on it, but the thought has crossed my mind. So what do we do in order to deal and live with this pain? This isn’t a blog where I give everyone all the answers! This is where I’m hoping some of you will comment and there will be some positive inspiration here. I can tell you that prayer has been a big part of my recovery. I don’t care who we are, what religion we may be, hopefully we have all been down on our knees in our lifetimes. If not, I’m telling you that you might be missing out on something big because the power is huge.
I have been wanting to post this blog for a while…..BECAUSE I really want to know does one hurt less than the other? My physical pain started in August 2007 and I never thought I would ever have to explain myself but I constantly to this day, have to do it all the time and I know there is at least half of these people who don’t’ believe that there is anything wrong with me. I am constantly answering to disability attorneys, doctors, physical therapists, etc, etc. I thought that was the worst thing I’d ever been through but losing a loved one I have to say ranks right up there and for a few moments during the deep sadness and regret, I forget about my own trials for a minute because I’m not sure which one is hurting more or less. I guess the difference is that the emotional pain over time seems not to hurt so much. I only wish the physical pain I suffer could be the same way. NO PHYSICAL AND NO EMOTIONAL PAIN SHOULD HAVE TO BE PART OF ANY OF OUR LIVES…..YET WE ALL DEAL WITH IT EVERYDAY AND IT MAKES US WHO WE ARE. WE HAVE TO CONTROL WHO WE BECOME AS A RESULT OF THESE THINGS AND THAT MY FRIENDS IS MUCH EASIER SAID THAN DONE. Pain can turn you into a monster. I know, for I have been that monster more times than I ever care to remember or that I want my husband, kids and immediate family members to remember. There are many ways to deal with it. If you are someone dealing with pain, whether it be emotional or physical, the important thing is to recognize it and get the help you need. It cannot be done on your own.
